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LightHeart
03-01-2006, 03:38 PM
Dr. Phils show today is about cheating spouses, I always said if my husband ever cheated I would be done with him. But after watching this show I realize that is easy to say, do you think you could forgive and move on with your spouse? Do you consider an emotional sexual affair worse than just a sexual affair?
Destiny
03-01-2006, 04:29 PM
Dr. Phils show today is about cheating spouses, I always said if my husband ever cheated I would be done with him. But after watching this show I realize that is easy to say, do you think you could forgive and move on with your spouse? Do you consider an emotional sexual affair worse than just a sexual affair?

Wow, thats a tough question. I do not actually know if I could ever trust him again. And I would always be wondering why he chose to have the affair. I really do think an emotional sexual afair would be worse because its always deeper when emotions are thrwon in. A sexual affair could just be a one night/day affair..quick sex type thing.
Destiny
03-01-2006, 04:32 PM
Oh and I think my first response would be to tell him to stick with the chick he decided to cheat on me with. I just had to come back and add that.
LightHeart
03-01-2006, 04:37 PM
Wow, thats a tough question. I do not actually know if I could ever trust him again. And I would always be wondering why he chose to have the affair. I really do think an emotional sexual afair would be worse because its always deeper when emotions are thrwon in. A sexual affair could just be a one night/day affair..quick sex type thing.
I agree, I think an emotional connection is worse. I honestly don't know what I would do. And if I did stick it out would I be throwing it in his face every chance, probably. I know couples have gotten past an affair, but man getting past the pain and the trust issue, I just don't know if I could do it or if I would even want to do it.

Do you believe once a cheater, always a cheater?
Destiny
03-01-2006, 04:40 PM
I agree, I think an emotional connection is worse. I honestly don't know what I would do. And if I did stick it out would I be throwing it in his face every chance, probably. I know couples have gotten past an affair, but man getting past the pain and the trust issue, I just don't know if I could do it or if I would even want to do it.

Do you believe once a cheater, always a cheater?

As much as I wouldn't want to believe it I do think it is a pattern. And I am like you I would be throwing it in his face everytime he upset me.
LightHeart
03-01-2006, 04:40 PM
Oh and I think my first response would be to tell him to stick with the chick he decided to cheat on me with. I just had to come back and add that.
One question Dr Phil did ask one of the cheaters was, was having that fling worth losing your wife and children over? Somehow I don't think he was thinking about his wife and kids as he was fullfilling his selfishness.
vervilledeb1
03-01-2006, 04:45 PM
Oh Lightheart! You must be feeling better..you hit us with a whammy lol.

I do not think I could stand to even talk to mine at first. Maybe after some time away from each other I could deal with a conversation. An emotional relationship would tell me two things. One, the affair has been taking place for sometime. And two, its not a quick fling that can be over and done with. I would have soo many questions especially if it was an emotional affair. Why would my spouse turn to someone for emotional satisfaction. The fling thing would be bad enough but I think a tad easier to deal with. Wow, you gave us some food for thought. Excellent question!
vervilledeb1
03-01-2006, 04:50 PM
Not to be a wiseone but I just got caught on the Googleads to the right lol.

I just sat here clicking away for all the tell tale signs that your spouse is having an affair...some are pretty interesting I must say!
LightHeart
03-01-2006, 04:55 PM
Not having gone through this, and trust me old hubby knows exactly where I stand with this issue, I think I would be done, I have always told him if he wanted someone else thats fine but he will divorce me first. The more I think about this the madder I am getting, LOL poor hubby he may be in for an earful tonight. Seriously though, how dare anyone think they can play with our hearts and emotions.

Debby you are so right about an emotional affair, that would cut me to the core. I would have so many questions too, but at the same time I would be afraid to hear the answers.
LightHeart
03-01-2006, 04:58 PM
Not to be a wiseone but I just got caught on the Googleads to the right lol.

I just sat here clicking away for all the tell tale signs that your spouse is having an affair...some are pretty interesting I must say!
I'm afraid to look :help:
vervilledeb1
03-01-2006, 05:05 PM
I was thinking the same thing Lightheart! The spouses will walk in GUILTY! LOL
InsanitysAngel
03-01-2006, 08:06 PM
'Tis why I'm single, and perfectly content that way.

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LightHeart
03-01-2006, 11:04 PM
'Tis why I'm single, and perfectly content that way.

:woohoo:
I have to admit, I do envy you at times. :evil:
InsanitysAngel
03-02-2006, 09:50 AM
I have to admit, I do envy you at times. :evil:

This IS the life. :D


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